The first move: Big Reactions
"Frustration quickly becomes a blow-up."
The standard
The calm one leads. Your nervous system sets the temperature of the room.
Say this
"The power of pause. Take a moment. One breath."
Then — "model it first."
When they push
Don't match their volume. Lower yours: “We'll talk when your voice is steady.”
Your 24-hour plan
- 1Name the pause out loud before the next hard moment.
- 2One breath yourself first, then coach theirs.
- 3Catch and name one time they paused — “That was leadership.”
This is the exact leadership your kids build on our mat — the same words at home, at school, and in class.
Print the words for the 5 hardest moments at home and put them on the fridge.
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